White Collar Support Group™ Blog: The Lie of “I Got This”: When Self-Assurance Turns into Self-Deception, by Sabrena Morgan

Sabrena Morgan is a member of our White Collar Support Group™ that meets every Monday evening on Zoom. Start Here™

Jeff Grant - White Collar Week
4 min readJun 4, 2024

We’ve all heard it. We’ve all said it. “I got this.” It’s a simple phrase that encapsulates confidence, independence, and a can-do attitude. But what happens when this seemingly innocent mantra becomes a lie that devastates our lives?

The Illusion of Control

“I got this” often starts as a declaration of self-reliance. In a world that prizes independence and resilience, it’s easy to see why we lean on this phrase. It’s a quick way to assert control over a situation, to reassure ourselves and others that we’re capable. But beneath this facade of confidence can lurk the dangerous territory of overconfidence and self-deception.

The Subtle Shift to Denial

Over time, “I got this” can morph from a motivational statement into a shield against reality. We might use it to avoid admitting that we need help or to sidestep the uncomfortable truth that we’re overwhelmed. This subtle shift marks the transition from self-assurance to denial. Instead of acknowledging our limits, we start believing our own hype, setting ourselves up for failure.

The Ripple Effect of a Lie

When we refuse to recognize our vulnerabilities, we often neglect critical aspects of our lives. Relationships suffer as we withdraw into ourselves, fearing judgment or pity. Our work can deteriorate as we push beyond our capacities, leading to burnout. And our mental health takes a hit as the pressure to maintain the facade mounts.

The lie of “I got this” doesn’t just affect us; it impacts everyone around us. Loved ones might feel shut out, colleagues could lose trust in our reliability, and our broader community might view us as less dependable. The ripple effect of this lie can be far-reaching, leaving a trail of damaged relationships and missed opportunities.

The Moment of Realization

The real power of this lie becomes evident when our lives begin to unravel. Perhaps it’s a missed deadline, a health scare, an emotional breakdown, a divorce, or maybe prison. These moments force us to confront the truth: we don’t got this. This painful realization can be devastating, but it’s also an opportunity for growth. It’s a chance to reassess, to seek help, and to rebuild with a more honest approach if it’s not already too late.

Embracing Vulnerability

Acknowledging that we don’t always have things under control is not a sign of weakness; it’s a testament to our humanity. Embracing vulnerability allows us to connect more deeply with others and ourselves. It opens the door to support systems, whether through friends, family, or professional help.

By admitting our limitations, we create a foundation for genuine strength. We learn to delegate, collaborate, and lean on others when necessary. This shift from isolation to community can transform our lives, making us more resilient and better equipped to handle challenges.

A New Mantra

Instead of clinging to the lie of “I got this,” let’s adopt a new mantra: “We got this.” This simple change acknowledges that we are not alone and that seeking help is a strength, not a weakness. It fosters a sense of shared responsibility and collective support, creating a more sustainable path forward.


The lie of “I got this” is a powerful one, capable of wreaking havoc on our lives if left unchecked. Recognizing this lie and understanding its impact is the first step toward a healthier, more balanced approach to life. By embracing vulnerability and seeking support, we can transform this lie into an opportunity for growth and connection. Remember, true strength lies not in solitary struggle but in the willingness to lean on others and face ours.

Sabrena Morgan is an accomplished writer and TikTok creator and she is a member of our White Collar Support Group™ that meets every Monday evening on Zoom. You can experience more of Sabrena’s content on Meduim and on TicTok.

We highly recommend Brent Cassity’s podcast, Nightmare Success, in which he interviews justice-impacted people from all walks of life. He is a White Collar Support Group™ member with a mission to be of service to our community. Please check it out on Spotify or on your favorite podcast platform.



Jeff Grant - White Collar Week

Jeff Grant is a Private General Counsel/White Collar Attorney at GrantLaw in NYC and w/ co-counsel & criminal defense counsel throughout the U.S. GrantLaw.com